“If you own this story you get to write the ending.” 
― Brené Brown


It weighs heavy, doesn’t it?


Especially self-responsibility.

Not blaming others for our actions.

Addressing our own conscience.

Embracing our shadow – our dark side.

It’s tough to do.

I’m not talking about beating ourselves up over our past mistakes.

But looking at what caused us to make them.

To accept them and make amends.

Either to ourselves or to those we may have harmed.

Owning our past and the side of us we would rather hide.

But it does enable us to change our path.

To embrace our lives fearlessly.

Jordan Peterson, the Professor of psychology, renowned for what some may find controversial views but others as a sensible and principled guide to living puts it this way.

“You cannot be protected from the things that frighten you and hurt you, but if you identify with the part of your being that is responsible for transformation, then you are always the equal, or more than the equal of the things that frighten you.” 

If we won’t be responsible for our lives and our mistakes, then who will?

If we feel down, what is at the core of that depression?

If we drink too much, why do we choose to do so?

If we have wronged somebody – even unintentionally. How can we go about rectifying this?

Sometimes it’s easier to blame parents, work, lifestyle, lack of whatever it may be.

Simpler to blame others and move on.

Do we really move on if we don’t address it?

Or do we get stuck. Trapped in a cycle.

The knack is to see what brought us to create these realities.

Deal with it and accept it as the past.

It does not have to be our future.

If we choose to face it, embrace it and see it as a chance to change. To get better.

To live better.

To commit to a healthy relationship with our shadow.

To live a more honest existence.

To own our shit.

We control the outcomes of our lives.

Our endings.

Embracing the dark side.

Yours authentically



You can read of me on Medium

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