Alone not Lonely

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” ~ Wayne Dyer

I’m off to a yoga retreat this weekend and although I will be surrounded by others, it is my craving for peace and solitude that will take me there.

Years ago I would have struggled with being alone, or lonely as I would have seen it then. I would have done everything to fill my time and my space with people, tasks . . . stuff.

If my Husband decided he was away for the weekend, I would panic at the thought of not talking to someone for a couple of days.

That was a time when I didn’t know myself and didn’t really want to.

Slowly I have changed. Now I crave that time to myself and so rarely get it.

I’ve often discussed this with others who think I am crazy for wanting to go sit in nature under the moon by myself.

Holiday alone.

But why?

Because if you don’t know yourself – like yourself. Then how do you know who to invite in to your life?

If you don’t know who you are and what makes you tick how can others share the real you?

Not the made up version we show everyone but the child we once were, the joy and sadness we hold.

There is a fear of knowing our true self. What if we find something we don’t like? How do we handle that?

Do we splash a smile on our faces and pretend that we’re alright really? Or do we brave it and face it?

There is something to be said for being brave, looking deep in to our own eyes and accepting we are not perfect.

How could we be?

We’ve been knocked and battered and bruised by life. We’ve made our mistakes.

But with each one of those shadows we face, we become more joyful, content and richer for the experience.

What do you know about yourself? What do you enjoy? What do you like to do?

It’s too easy to be dragged along with the crowd and accept what is deemed ‘normal’ for a grown up to do.

So stop. Today.

Listen to yourself.

Ask yourself what you enjoy and in that quiet moment let your voice come to you. You won’t need to listen too hard but trust what you hear, what you feel in your gut.

That is YOU speaking.

Yours Authentically


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4 thoughts on “Alone not Lonely

  1. Well done, Emma, I totally subscribe to all that you have said. It takes a lot of courage to go on your path to ‘authenticity’ as many friends and colleagues will not understand. Here is another quote which echoes your views, ‘People think being alone makes you lonely but, I don’t think that’s true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.’
    Kim Cuthbertson
    Keep up the good work, Emma, you are seeking the ONLY path for you – your authentic path. And, another quote by the Master, Lao Tzu, ‘If you do not change direction, you will end up going where you are going.’


    1. Thank you Carole. I love that final quote, very true.


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